Good news! This birthmother letter is no longer active. On April 11th, 1998, our daughter Alexandra was born. You can get a few more details from our "adoption roller coaster" Web page.
If you are a potential birthparent, we ask that you try to find other adoptive parents for their babies. Many are available on the birthmother information page run by our agency, the Independent Adoption Center.
Our letter to birthmothers is still below, for those who are interested in what we had to say.
We're Pat and Geoff Kuenning, and we'd like to tell you about
our desire to give your baby a secure and comfortable life, and how
much we will consider it a privilege to raise your child in our loving
home.
We are extremely excited about fulfilling our dream of adding to our
family by adopting. Open adoption offers the best way to ensure that
you and the baby can share our fundamental value of honest and open
relationships. You can be confident that your child will always know
of your love.
Our marriage five years ago grew out of a caring 9-year
relationship. We have always been best friends, and cherish our
special bond of commitment and mutual respect. The child we raise
will share the joy and closeness of our lives.
Our comfortable home is shared by three cuddly cats and is filled with
the sounds of our many musical instruments. It is located in Granada
Hills, California, a lovely, safe suburb about 20 miles north of Los
Angeles. Nearby is a beautiful state park where we picture ourselves
picnicking, playing, and taking walks holding our toddler's tiny hand.
Our quiet yard is filled with fruit trees and flowers, and we have a
cheerful, sunny room that we can't wait to turn into a nursery. Geoff
is refinishing a crib for the new baby, and his oldest brother is
restoring the family's antique wooden rocking horse.
A close family is deeply important to us. Geoff's younger brother and
his wife live nearby, allowing us to get together often. They're really
excited about having a new niece or nephew to play with their own new
baby. Visiting the rest of Geoff's family in Montana is always a
special treat. Frequently we see Pat's mother, who lives near the
beach in San Francisco, and Pat's sister's family at their farmhouse
near Seattle. Pat also has cousins in England whom we visit whenever
possible.
Our family-oriented neighborhood is filled with children riding
tricycles on the sidewalk, running through sprinklers, and flying
kites. There is a new state-of-the-art elementary school just one
block away, so that the little ones have access to a wonderful
playground and can start kindergarten with their best friends. Since
we are both committed to learning, your child will be offered the
opportunity to get the best possible education.
Both of us are very devoted to children, and love caring for them. We
anticipate singing lullabies, teaching the baby to walk and talk,
getting the giggles as we share silly jokes and riddles, creating
puppet shows, and reading bedtime stories before that final goodnight
kiss. You'll know that your child has patient, dedicated parents from
the first through the 2,597th diaper change! We will be there to take
care of sniffles, fevers, and monsters under the bed. As the years go
by, your child will have supportive parents during all the ups and
downs of life: the first day of school, afternoons of homework, music
or dance lessons, won and lost ball games, new friendships, and the
inevitable childhood disappointments. Eventually, we will watch
proudly as our child becomes an adult and goes into the world, knowing
that together we have provided a strong moral, mental, and physical
foundation for a successful future.
Realizing you have some very difficult decisions to make, we want to
thank you for considering us as potential parents for your child. If
you would like to discuss adoption with us, you can call us at home any time
(toll-free) at 1-888-816-3557, or call our adoption counselor
at
1-800-726-1021.
On the Internet, you can send
us e-mail or visit our counselor's
Web page.
You can also have the Independent Adoption Center arrange for you to
speak to us by phone or in person.
We wish you our very best,
Pat & Geoff Kuenning
Geoff is a Ph.D. computer researcher and lecturer at UCLA. He loves
his work, especially because it allows him to be flexible with his
time so that he can make family his number-one priority. Pat teaches
music in an elementary school, performs in local symphony orchestras,
and also gives cello lessons at home to students from ages 5 through
adult. However, she plans to stop working after we adopt so that she
can be a full-time mom.
Hobbies
We both enjoy playing music together for our friends, camping, hiking,
sailing, horseback riding, traveling, going to the beach, and
puttering around the house. We also spend a lot of time at home,
playing with our three cute cats, Bella (the "Queen") and
the twin kittens Dot and Ditto. Pat loves to cook, especially if it's
a recipe she's never tried before. After one of her barbecues, our
guests like to relax in the yard, watching Geoff while he clowns
around and juggles brightly colored balls and pins. He has the
age-old skill of mesmerizing an audience of children (and adults) by
telling traditional versions of folk tales, or sometimes new stories
he likes to make up on the spot.
Hello!
Careers
Pat loves the outdoors!
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| Pat reading to nephew Tyler |
One of my great pleasures is watching Pat with the children of friends and with those she teaches. Her manner is so patient, so loving, that I am tremendously proud to have her in my life. In fact, the reason I first asked her out on a date was because of seeing her enthusiastically playing a children's game. Pat has a lot of experience with children of all ages, both through her career as a music teacher and as a mother's helper. A couple who worked in the film industry asked her to assist in raising their teenager because of their long hours away from home, and Pat was able to provide a supportive and steadying influence during the girl's most difficult years. I am confident that her talents and background will make her an outstanding mother not only today, but fifteen years from now when our child is struggling with adolescence.
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| Twin friends Katie and Sarah help Geoff dress up |
My husband is a natural-born dad. He is never happier than when he is around our friends' or relatives' children, and seems to act as a "kid magnet." Geoff has been afather figure to his best friend's daughter from infancy through adulthood. He taught her to build sand castles, helped with homework, drove her to ballet lessons, took her to the opera, and never missed a recital or school play. He continues to be a vital part of her life, and we are now very proud to see her starting college this year. Geoff also enjoys his new role as uncle to my nephew's baby boy and plays with him for hours on end whenever we are able to visit. I know in my heart that Geoff will be a wonderful father.
Pat & Geoff Kuenning
1-888-816-3557
or
1-800-726-1021
or
Send us e-mail.
Our counselors are the Independent Adoption Center. If you wish, you can have them arrange for you to speak to us by phone or in person.
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